So, you’re intimate with your partner, and you feel that the experience could be even more intense if you add some dirty talk. Many of us have used the ‘Who’s your daddy?’ line and other cheesy ones, but what dirty talk is actually a major turn on? The actual phrases or sentences that turn people on vary from person to person, but there is a way to communicate in bed that adds to the experience.
Tell Them How They’re Making You Feel
When your partner is doing something that you’re really enjoying, tell them that. It gives them a confidence boost that you’re enjoying what they’re doing and prompts them to put in even more effort. You can make it sexier by whispering it in their ear or grunt it out loud so they can feel how you’re feeling.
Telling them that their skin feels amazing against yours or that their touch is lustful will encourage them to do more of what’s working. The key to making dirty talk work is to be completely honest. You don’t want to encourage somebody to do something that doesn’t feel great just because it will give them an ego boost. If they’re not doing what you want them to do, then that brings me to my next point.
Tell Them What You Want
If your partner is not doing what you want, you need to tell them. Communicate to them what it is that you’d like them to do to you, and you can be as specific as you want to be by guiding their hands, mouth lips or genitals. I got highly turned on when a woman told me to spank her. When I did, it turned both of us on.
You can even tell your partner to make you cum or for them to take control. Getting specific such as telling them the parts of clothing that you want them to take off you or them first is also a major turn-on for some people.
Tell Them What You’re Going To Do
This works well when your partner is submissive, and they want you to take control. It works even better when that submissive partner is open-minded and prepared to let you do, pretty much, whatever you want. Telling your partner what you want to do to them builds up a lot of anticipation, especially when they can’t wait for you to do that thing to them.
It’s also an opportunity for your partner to communicate to you if it’s something that they don’t want. You don’t want to waste your time putting in effort when it’s not something that they really want or could potentially turn them off. Telling your partner that you’re going to tear their clothes off or that you’ve been thinking the whole day about what you were going to do to them can intensify their lust.
Communicating the right thing to your partner during sex or the build-up to it is key to making dirty talk work. There is nothing wrong with discussing with your partner before the sex what it is that you’d like them to say or what you’re planning to say. That helps to gauge their receptiveness so that your words make them experience even better.