Everybody’s sexual journal is different. We have sex for the first time at different ages, with different races and people of all kinds of backgrounds. There are more than 7 billion people in the world, which means many people have had sex, but there are lots who still haven’t experienced their first time. Everyone’s experience will be different, but there are certain measures one can take to ensure that it’s pleasurable. So, we provided tips for having sex for the first time so that you can settle your nerves and enjoy it.

1. Get In Touch With Your Anatomy

Before you dive into the pool, you should dip your feet first. Regarding sex, that means you should use your fingers or toys to penetrate your vagina so that you can get a feel for what to expect. Testing vibrators in different sex positions will give you a good idea of which positions are uncomfortable and which ones you like.

Getting to know your body before sex is important so that you have the knowledge to tell your partner what it is that you want. That brings us to the second tip…

2. Communication Is Key

You have to talk to your partner about sex before your first time. To ensure that you have great sex, you need to tell your partner what it is that you want to do in bed and what you’re not comfortable with doing. By doing that, you’ll also find out what it is that they want to do during sex. There are some things that you might not be comfortable with, and that’s fine. It’s your body.

Some virgins will also want to know their partner’s intentions after sex. Do they want only a one-night stand or are they going to stick around? You’ll find out all the things that you want to know if you communicate prior to sex. There is a time and a place that you should have this conversation. It’s not as soon as you’ve met the person. You might want to wait until you’re certain that they’re the one and they want to have sex with you.

3. Don’t Worry About Your Performance

Most virgins want to have a great experience during the first sexual encounter; some want earth-shattering sex. That’s not always possible, and worrying about it is one way of stressing yourself out and ruining the intimacy. If you’re a man, don’t feel the pressure to last long in bed. It might happen, but the chances are high that you want. Also, don’t feel the pressure to give your partner an orgasm the first time. It’s possible, but don’t count on it.

Ladies, don’t expect to have an orgasm the first time, but more importantly, don’t fake an orgasm. One of the problems of faking an orgasm is that your partner will think that he or she is doing a good job, so they will continue doing what they did. Lying is a nasty habit, so you’ll struggle to communicate with your partner what it is that you actually want if you faked an orgasm.

4. Take It Easy

The first time you got behind the wheel of a car, you probably didn’t step on the gas and drove at 200 kilometres per hour. So, why are you rushing when sex is involved? It’s your first time; you should take it slow. Don’t feel pressured to ride your partner like a cowboy at a rodeo. You should treat your first time as an experiment. See what works for you and what doesn’t.

Start slowly, and if you feel you’re comfortable at that pace, you can always increase the speed. If you’re entering a female virgin, there’s a possibility that she’s never had any kind of penetration. She needs to become accustomed to being penetrated. Don’t go from 0 to 100 in a few seconds. If you want your first intimacy to last and to be pleasurable, start slow.

5. The First Time Shouldn’t Hurt

There’s a misconception that losing your virginity should hurt. Although you might feel uncomfortable, women should not feel pain when they have sex for the first time. Numerous women have stated that the first time they had sex, it felt like the man was hitting a wall. Being penetrated the first time shouldn’t feel like that.

Not only should your partner be going slowly, but a good rule of thumb is to have lube. Having lube is especially necessary if you’re planning on having anal sex. Also, you should have a gynecologist check you out before you have sex. The last thing you want to be doing is having sex if you have vaginismus, a condition that makes it difficult for anything to penetrate your vagina.

6. Don’t Neglect Foreplay

This is one of the main steps that people who have had sex for years forget. Most people rush to take their clothes off and to penetrate, but they forget that having sex is like a movie. You can’t skip the beginning and the middle to reach the end. It’s the build-up that makes the process more pleasurable.

Foreplay is important regardless of how many times you’ve had sex, but it’s crucial when it’s your first time. Having foreplay calms your nerves, relaxes your mind and increases body awareness. Foreplay will help you to be aroused. If you’re a woman, you might get wet, and if you’re a man, you might get erect.

Engaging in foreplay means different things to different people. It could be cuddling, kissing or humping.

7. Make Sure You’re Safe

That doesn’t only mean you should be in a safe environment with somebody who isn’t dangerous, but it also means using protection. The last thing you want to be worried about when having sex for the first time is getting an STD or becoming pregnant if that’s not your intention.

Worrying about contracting a disease or getting pregnant will not make you feel safe, which can distract or stress you. Feeling safe will help you to relax. If you want to avoid getting pregnant, take double precautions: use birth control pills and have your man wear a condom.

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