Most of us go through a phase where our lives are in turmoil. We’ve lost our job or business, our partner has left us, and we can’t even stand the person in the mirror. When your whole world is upside down and you’re uncertain of what to do or what you want, you’ve been thrown off your path. Or so it seems.
Everything is part of the journey. You might veer off your path by making a decision that seems wrong, but even that is part of the journey. The so-called wrong decision showed you what you’re not supposed to do so you realise where your path lies. But before I get too philosophical, let’s relate this situation to your sex life.
Our appearance reflects our inner state, and it’s easy to spot a miserable person. They slouch, frown and get irritated by frivolous matters. Miserable women tend to have dishevelled hair. It looks oily or dry, and is definitely unbrushed.
When you’re in that state, you don’t find yourself attractive. So how can you expect others to? You can take several actions that will improve your state and make you more attractive.
Exercise
Nothing changes your state quicker than motion. Lazing on the couch will make you more miserable, so you need to get moving. You might not be in the mood to lift heavy weights or run a few kilometres, but you can walk. Take it easy and build up momentum. The key word is momentum.
It’s crucial to get your mind off your problems and make yourself feel productive. Exercise helps you take a load off and supplies you with energy. The tension in your shoulders and jaw dissipates after exercise. You look more relaxed and pleasant to talk to.
Remember momentum. It’s not good enough to walk once and then return to the couch. Do it every day. Instead of making TV watching a habit, let exercise be it.
Socialise
When you feel your world has fallen apart, the last thing you feel like doing is going out. Socialising, in this context, doesn’t mean going to a nightclub or a dinner party. It could be chatting with a neighbour or calling a friend. People visiting a psychologist also partake in socialising.
It helps to talk about your problems. If you’re not discussing your problems, socialising helps you to forget them, even for a short period. Have coffee with a friend and talk about sports. Or when you’re walking around the neighbourhood, chat with your neighbours. It can be a brief conversation but get talking.
Isolating yourself gives you time to complain about the things you don’t have, and loneliness can exacerbate your misery. Having company is important. The right person can make you laugh, provide you with profound advice and serve as a dumping ground that helps you offload your problems.
Smile
Smile because it’s free, and it goes a long way. Nothing is more unattractive than an unfriendly, serious person, at least to me. Regardless of how a beautiful woman is, her beauty devalues when she’s unfriendly. I understand that you may feel you’ve got nothing to smile about.
But just smile anyway.
Smiling is similar to exercise. It puts you in a different mindset and makes you seem relaxed. If you smile at someone, chances are high they’ll smile back. Even if you have to force yourself to smile, do it. I’d recommend making eye contact with an attractive stranger and then smiling. It doesn’t have to be a cheesy, over-the-top, fake smile. As long as your lips are curled and your eyes convey friendliness, it’s good enough.
Hold eye contact until the other person looks away.
Final Thoughts
The suggestions I made may not bring back your ex or cause you to receive money. But they will help to put you in a state of mind that makes you feel more energetic. Energy is contagious and may attract the person you want.
Get out there and make yourself look more attractive if you want to improve your sex life.
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Good luck.