You’ve fallen in love with your partner, and you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with them. The only problem with that is you’re worried about not being satisfied because their performance is lackluster. Cheating is out of the question, so the only thing left is for you to help your bed partner improve their performance.
Talk to Them About Their Performance
Your partner might not be aware that you feel their performance is not up to par. Mention it to them in a respectful, non-judgemental way. The only way your partner can fix a problem is if they know about it. But be careful about the words you use.
As opposed to telling them they’re dreadful in bed, you could make a suggestion about what they should improve. Most people don’t mind constructive feedback.
Show Them What They’re Doing Wrong
Hopefully, after you’ve brought up the issue, your partner is open to learning from you. If your partner is terrible at sucking dick, tell them exactly what you like. Be specific. She needs to know how much tongue to use and went to slurp. Treat that experience as training, where you provide guidance as to what your expectations are.
If your man is penetrating too slowly, tell him how much faster he should speed up. The only way for them to improve is if you’re adamant about them meeting your standards, and you let them know that as many times as it takes for them to satisfy you the way you want.
Hold Them Accountable
People are more inclined to improve if they face consequences. As an example, if you feel your partner is not trying their best, withhold sex from them. There must be consequences for underperformance. And withholding sex from your partner shouldn’t feel like a punishment to you because you’re unsatisfied with their performance. The punishment must fit the crime.
Nothing hurts more than hearing the person you love tell you they’re disappointed in you. You might want to use that line sparingly. Overusing it loses its effect.
The only way to help your bed partner improve is by incorporating the above methods. Sex is a big element in any relationship, and not being satisfied can lead you to look elsewhere.
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