Some people use excuses for not having sex for prolonged periods. Even if you’re focused on your career, a quick boink will do your mental health wonders. So stop using your career and other excuses to justify your sexual dry spell. If five minutes of great sex were offered to you on a silver platter, you would accept the proposal.
Now that we’ve established you’re a human being, like the rest of us, who’ll gladly welcome sex, let’s cover some actions you can take right now to break the dry spell.
Get Out of the House and Interact
The chances of someone knocking on your door and offering sex are slim to none, especially if you’re a man. You have to get out of the house and go where people are. That could be a park, gym, shopping centre or a club. Wherever you’re likely to meet people, go there.
Being in a target-rich environment isn’t enough; you have to demonstrate your personality. There is nothing wrong with approaching a stranger and striking up a conversation. The chances are high they’re out of the house to meet people as well.
If you’re a woman, don’t let the stigma associated with women approaching men stop you. The only problem men have with women approaching them is that it doesn’t happen enough.
I’d suggest going to places where you can meet like-minded people. These are people who share your interests. I love books and use bookshops to meet women. I also enjoy fitness, and I’ve had plenty of dates with women I met at a gym.
Being around people with similar interests provides an intrinsic icebreaker. If you love books, you can tell the person next to you in a bookshop that you’re undecided about the book to buy and ask them what’s piqued their interest. I’ve done that numerous times, and not one woman was rude or thought I was weird for engaging them.
Don’t Masturbate
There’s nothing wrong with masturbating when you’re regularly getting laid, but it shouldn’t replace intimacy. If you don’t masturbate during a sexual dry spell, you’re likely to be irritable and possibly frustrated.
That’s not a bad thing because those emotions should be used as motivation to get out of the house and talk to attractive strangers. After you masturbate, you may have suppressed your sexual urge and killed the motivation to take action.
Excessive masturbation can also make you depressed. Just before the climax, you’re at the pinnacle of satisfaction, and then when you ejaculate, you feel empty. Sometimes after I ejaculate, I say to myself, “I feel stupid. Why did I do this?”
Masturbation drains the lust from your body that you could channel towards another person and use as an attraction tool. This can work extremely well in highly sex-charged environments such as nightclubs with people also looking for sex.
Stop Making Excuses
You may have convinced yourself that you don’t want sex, but you’re only fooling yourself. The first step to solving a problem is admitting you have one and that you’re the reason it exists. You have to hold yourself accountable.
Playing a victim will prevent you from taking action and provides a scapegoat because you feel that the matter is out of your control. Own up to the problem and plan the actions that you’re going to take, whether that means visiting a specific spot or getting on a dating app.
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