Sometimes, a woman is damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t. Many men complain about putting in effort and not getting sex from a woman, but when she gives it up easily, they call her a slut. So what’s a girl to do?
If a woman really likes you, she may have sex with you very soon after she meets you. And that doesn’t mean that she is a slut. She could want you really badly. I’ve heard stories of a man banging a woman in an elevator on their first date, and they went on to be married for twenty-five years.
The reason that some women who like you make you wait for sex is because they want to see that you are as serious about them as they are about you. They don’t want to be used only for sex and then dumped. First, you have to prove to them that you’re in it for the long haul before they grant you access to their vaginas.
I’ve had several girls offer me sex on the first date, and all of them wanted just sex. They weren’t interested in having a relationship with me. There’s that as well. Women have needs, and not all women who are attracted to you want to be in a relationship with you.
Some women want to get back at their cheating boyfriends and others may have been through a dry spell and want their vaginas wet. But that’s it, nothing more.
I’ve made the mistake (several times) of not pushing for sex with a woman on a first date because I thought that she’d be repulsed by me for coming on too strong. It turns out that they wanted me to push for it, and the reason I didn’t see them again is because I held back.
It’s important to read the situation carefully. That can be tough, but a woman will always give you hints. Don’t assume that all women don’t want sex on the first date or soon after meeting you.
With one woman, I kissed her in the parking lot a few minutes after meeting her. When I called her a few days later and then picked her up, we didn’t even go on a date before she suggested going back to my place. She told me, without being direct, about what she wanted, yet I still assumed that I should wait. Stupid, I know.
And if she does grant you sex on the first date, it’s not to say that she’s not the one. Don’t judge her on that experience alone. Look at the bigger picture. What does she offer and want?
I, actually, think it’s important to ask that upfront so that you know what kind of a woman you’re dealing with and act accordingly. You don’t want to miss out on sex, but you also don’t want to potentially screw it up with the woman of your dreams by pushing for sex immediately when she wants to wait.
Reading the situation usually takes practice. Some men have a natural acuity to read such situations, while the rest of us learn through trial and error.
Everybody hates to be judged. The last thing you want to do is judge her, regardless of what she decides. That’s likely to turn her off and she could end up running away from you.
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